PART OF THE SINGLE WOMAN’S BLOGGING CHALLENGE
What do I think is one of the biggest misconceptions about single people?
This was a toughie, because I honestly couldn’t think of any. Which is weird, because there are many. I guess it’s just that most of these misconceptions–too selfish, don’t try hard enough, mostly just sit at home on Saturdays Netflix-ing their lives away (that’s the vast majority of people, single or otherwise, just for the record!)–have been disproven over and over again.
Something that DID come to mind was the misconception that singles are somehow less “full” or fulfilled, than those in “loving” partnerships.
I say, “loving” because I think a big misconception is that everyone in a relationship is in a loving one. But that’s another story entirely.
No, friends–we’re talking about singleness here.
More specifically, we’re talking about this blatant lie that singles are somehow lesser than compared to their taken counterparts. And that not only do we find ourselves Netflix-ing on a Saturday next to an empty spot on the couch. But somehow the fruits of our lives come up equally just as empty.
So, instead of feeding into these misconceptions, I thought I’d explain a few awesome things I know to be true of many singles I personally know and love.
Single or taken, we are all so much more than our relationship status.
We create some amazing community.
One thing singles are pretty good at, is finding one another. Whether it’s getting together and venting about the current trends in dating culture or finding support in one another when life happens and slaps us in the face. When you do life as a single, you learn to find your people–whether they’re single, married or in a “it’s complicated” relationship (that’s still a status, right?). Singles value the gift of community and the deep love and care that is found there.
We genuinely love who we are.
Bruh, love yo’self. Singles aren’t less happy with who they are than those in relationships. So, let’s stop thinking they are. In fact, some of the happiest people I’ve met are singles just living life and doing their thang! Singleness isn’t a pit stop before skipping town and hitching a ride on the Coupled Up bus. It’s the perfect time to learn how to do life with little ole you and figure out how to thrive in the process. It’s all in your perspective sometimes, which I’ve written about before here.
We have passion projects and BIG dreams.
While it might seem like Netflix-ing, eating cookie dough straight from the tub and blubbering about our loneliness is the norm for us singles, here’s a newsflash: it isn’t. Nah, most of us are out here doing this thing! We’re looking towards our dreams and goals, bracing for the journey ahead of us, and going for it. Maybe our life partner is taking their sweet, sweet time getting to us, but that doesn’t mean we’ll be here twiddling our thumbs until their train pulls up. We’ve got lives to live and dreams to reach. They’ll just have to keep up and hop on board because, we’re going places.
We have so much love to offer to the world around us.
1 Corinthians 13:1-3
“[If] I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poorand give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.”
Yes, we have SO much love to give. To the world. Our family. Friends. We love–maybe not always in the ways the world might expect us to, yet we love. We love greatly and powerfully. Don’t think that just because we haven’t found that special someone, we don’t give our love in other, just as valuable, ways. We’ve been given this great love–it’s a part of who we are as children of God–so it’s natural for us to give it away freely to others. This too is a great gift. Let us use it now more than ever, friends.
Are you still not convinced singles are (FUL)filled people?
I’ll let you work that out amongst, well, yourself. As for me, I hope this sheds some light on a common misconception about us singles–and then totally wrecks it!
What’s another misconception about singles that you’re tired of hearing?
Let me know in the comments below!