Another Cliché Post About Being Single During the Holidays

  • November 28, 2018
Under the mistletoe: another post about singleness and the holidays

WARNING: this isn’t meant to be one of those posts.

It’s just a friendly reminder, rather a friendly note to anyone “in the throes” of singleness who are looking for a little real-talk-pick-me-up. 

I won’t sugar coat it: being single for the holidays isn’t always rosy. But, you know that already. 

Okay, wait—here’s another one: singleness during the holidays can be a real celebration downer.

Hmmm, that’s not uplifting either. 

Okay, how about: you’re single. It’s the holidays. Here you are. Welcome.

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Amazing (and super EASY) Strawberry Oatmeal Bars

  • November 21, 2018
Amazing Strawberry Oatmeal Bars - baking

Amazing Strawberry Oatmeal Bars - baking

There really is something about the holidays that just makes you want to bake. It’s like the air gets crisper, the leaves start falling and all you want to do is scour Pinterest for recipe ideas on what you can whip together with the ingredients in your pantry. Or is it just me? 

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Honestly, Same Episode 003 – Don’t Compare Your Behind-the-Scenes

  • October 31, 2018
Honestly, Same - Comparing your behind-the-scenes-to-the-highlight-reels

I know we’ve talked about this before, but I think we need to keep talking about it. 

Comparison does one of two things:

Firstly, comparison robs you of your joy in the here and now. How can you be joyful in the life you have if you’re too busy looking at the lives of others? And secondly, it blinds you to the reality that you have your own abundant and full life to live. As the old saying goes, the grass is always greener on the other side. But, as the old saying continues, the grass is greener where you water it

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Honestly, Same Episode 002 – Disappointment in Life (and Hair)

  • October 24, 2018
honestly, same ep. 002 disappointment in life (and hair) podcast

Disappointment sucks.

I would never wish it on anyone and if I had it my way, I’d do away with it entirely. I don’t know about you, but for me, disappointment evokes feelings of sadness, helplessness and joyless(ness). When I get stuck in these emotions and feelings, it can be hard to escape the negative cycle that disappointment perpetrates in my life. Lately, God has been speaking so much into my life around the theme of disappointment. And, true to His mysterious nature, He’s been doing so in ways that I never imagined He would.

In fact, He’s been revealing what my reactions to disappointment look like and how they manifest in my life. How—you might ask—is He showing me these things? What exactly has me so disappointed as of late? 

Well, to put it bluntly, there are two things: my hair and my singleness. 

I know. Two weirdly unrelated and maybe to you, frivolous things. How exactly could these two separate desires be related at all, and how is God using them to highlight this season of change and disappointment in my life? 

First, let me show you just how connected these two unrelated desires actually are:

I don’t trust just anyone with my hair. My edges need protecting and care. My scalp is sensitive and I need a braider who will be responsive and aware of that.

I don’t trust just anyone with my heart. My heart needs protecting and care. I am a sensitive being who needs someone who will be responsive and aware of that.

I need a braider who is consistent and intentional. Please don’t leave me wondering what to expect when I get to your salon/home. Be up front with me about pricing, set a date and tell me what I need to bring to my appointment. I don’t have time for games.

I need a partner who is consistent and intentional. Please don’t leave me wondering what to expect when you’re pursuing me. Be up front with me about what you expect, set a date (or many) with me, and tell me what you need from me to bring into our relationship. I don’t have time for games.

See what I mean? The comparison is uncanny. In this season of wonderfully challenging growth, I feel as though I am simultaneously in a season of persistent disappointment. I took a closer look at the way in which God has been revealing my reactions to disappointment and how I can change my response to meeting disappointment by cultivating a heart of thankfulness and joy. 

How, you might ask, did I do this?

Take a listen to episode 002 of the Honestly, Same podcast, and find out: 


My Favorite Not-So-Scary Halloween Movies

  • October 1, 2018
Pumpkins for eyes - not-so-scary Halloween

 I have always loved the whole concept of Halloween, even when I was little.

Granted, it had much more to due with the candy and knocking on doors for treats than what I appreciate about the season as a “grown up”. I used to love getting dressed up–at one point, I was definitely a devil, Perdita from 101 Dalmations and even a queen–how appropriate. I can vividly recall two ugly, terrifying masks my dad would wear every year to scare trick-or-treaters who approached our door, an ugly Wolfman and one that I’d rather forget. Image result for halloween is cool GIF

Basically, I am Marnie–Marnie is me.