21 Things I Learned at 21

21 Things I've Learned at 21

I can’t tell you how many blogs I’ve read that have at least one post titled, “Things I Wish I’d Known” or “Things I Learned” in my twenties. And don’t get me wrong, if I didn’t love ‘em, I wouldn’t be reading! I think they are actually quite informative. Being a twenty-something myself, I find it helpful to learn from the mistakes, or successes of those who have gone before me. The thing to remember is: everyone’s experience is different and we will all handle various situations differently.

Basically, I wanted to share some things I have learned (imagine me saying this in a snooty British accent) in my twenty-one years of experience.

I will be 22 next month, and what better way to reflect on this past year, than sharing it with you!

Let’s get started, shall we:

  1. It’s okay to go with your instincts sometimes. I found myself in a bit of a conundrum around this time last year. I debated whether or not studying abroad for a year in Wales, UK or staying here at college in the US, would be better for me. I eventually decided to stay and finish up my degree. Something I worried about after I made my choice however, was not whether I would get the chance to go abroad in the future, but if I would later regret my decision of declining my acceptance. I was so busy thinking about what others would think of me once I said “no”. But I stuck by my choice in the end, and do not regret it at all. I told myself, if you decided that this choice was best for you in the past, then in the future you need to remind yourself of that. Since declining my study abroad offer, I have been able to apply for graduation, and will have my bachelors’ of arts in psychology and a completed business minor in the spring. This year has brought me some confusion and worry, but also much clarity and excitement for the future.
  2. When one door closes, you might have to keep walking down the hall to find another open one. Be patient (I know, it’s definitely easier said than done).
  3. To love at all is to be vulnerable. A big lesson for me this past semester in particular. Mr. Lewis definitely knew a thing or two.(from C.S. Lewis’ The Four Loves)
  4. It’s okay to change your mind about what “ideal” is.
  5. Life is what YOU make it. Thanks mom and dad for that one.
  6. It’s never too late to change. Bad habits, diets, relationships…give it a chance and you’ll see.
  7. You really will win some and lose some. 
  8. Self-care is reallyimportant. 
  9. You’re never too old to have a themed birthday party.You’ll have a lot of fun and chances are, others will too.
  10. Home really is where the heart is. After a while, things that once brought you comfort and peace, may disappear. Keep searching though. Home might just be right around the corner.
  11. God is good. Always.
  12. Near or far, your true friends will always find you. Literally.
  13. You can’t fake passion.

 “Don’t worry about what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive and do that, because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” -Howard Thurman

14. Give everything you do 100% or don’t do it at all. Follow through. Follow through. Follow through.  

  1. If it seems like it hasn’t been done before, do it anyway. Blaze that trail like Lewis and Clark! Forgot about them, didn’t ya?
  2. Give back, because you can. 
  3. Parents are human too. Be kind to them.
  4. Make new friends, but keep the old ones. Shout out to my Girl Scouts!
  5. Do one thing that scares you, every day.See what comes out of it.
  6. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself.
  7. Nothing comes before the time. “Trust me.” – mom


So, I hope this post wasn’t the most cliche thing you’ve ever read.

I also hope that you will take some time to reflect back on all you’ve learned in this past year.

Seriously, try it, because we don’t just go through life singing la-di-da

(well, not always).

We live it!

You’ve grown.

 So look back at those footprints in the metaphorical sands of time, and see where they’ve been. Chances are, they’ve traveled a long ways.

 Can’t wait to see what this next year has in store for you all.

Thanks for reading.

“Commit to the Lord whatever you do,
and he will establish your plans.
The Lord works out everything to its proper end—”

Proverbs 16: 3-4


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Twenty-something, lover of Jesus. I like animals (esp. dogs), Fun-Fetti cupcakes and yoga. I love God and do my best to love others. I hate too-warm weather and socks that fall into your shoes when you walk. I'm a huge fan of Christian rap and cold, sunny days.

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