I know we’ve talked about this before, but I think we need to keep talking about it.
Comparison does one of two things:
Firstly, comparison robs you of your joy in the here and now. How can you be joyful in the life you have if you’re too busy looking at the lives of others? And secondly, it blinds you to the reality that you have your own abundant and full life to live. As the old saying goes, the grass is always greener on the other side. But, as the old saying continues, the grass is greener where you water it.
With social media still on the rise, it can be so easy to compare our lives to those around us. BUT we must stop. Nothing is gained from our constant comparing, and then, inevitable shaming of our own lives pinned against another’s.
In this week’s Honestly, Same episode 003, I’m talking about comparison and what I have to remind myself of when I find myself trapped in a grass is always greener rut.
A tool I’ve found useful in the past (possibly due to my social work-y background) is naming it, and reframing it.
When we can name the situation for what it is–comparison, envy, jealousy (you name it!)–we can then learn to reframe our thinking to assess what is truth and what’s not. A little CBT never hurt anyone. If you want to learn more about this technique, take a listen and be encouraged. Because your life is a full one. And if it’s not yet, you have the power and capability to make it so.
Take a listen below, and let me know:
What do you do when you find yourself in a bout of comparison?
What things, people, experiences in your life, make your life feel full and abundant to you?