As a creative, it is easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of creating, only to find yourself comparing your unique work to another’s. As a result, you end up less than pleased with your hard work and unique creations. This needs to stop, like yesterday.
This has been my motto for 2018. In my own life, I can pinpoint many times where I’ve fallen into this trap of comparison with others. My earliest memory of comparison traces all the way back to the 6th grade. I was best friends with a girl who seemingly had it all. She was on the Varsity cheer team, a position that was mainly given to 7th and 8th graders. She was smart, popular and overall was genuinely likable. And she was MY best friend–a fact that I would proudly proclaim whenever I could.
I truly believe that I was proud to be her best friend. And our friendship was very special to me, and hopefully to her too at the time. But I would be lying if I didn’t speak honestly about how being the best friend to an overachiever–in many areas of her life–often made me question what unique talents or skills I had to offer to the world. Or even if I had any at all.
And when I think back to that brilliant, talented, lovable 6th grader, I wish I could take her and give her a good shake. I’d tell her, “Yes, your friend is talented and great at what she does, but look at YOU! Don’t you see how amazing and gifted you are too?” While she was out practicing cheer, you were at home typing up imaginative, short stories. While she was excelling in school, you too were working hard to be successful in math class.
In other words, the presence of her awesomeness, did not assume the absence of my own.
It’s easy to look curiously over another’s shoulder and start to compare your life, your work and what you do or don’t have.
It’s harder to keep your nose to the page and continue creating. Don’t stop doing what you do best–or even somewhat okay–keep going. And yes, I know it’s easier said than done, but here are a few thoughts to keep in mind as you we work towards nipping comparison in the bud.It's easy to look curiously over another's shoulder and start to compare your life, your work and what you do or don't have. It's harder to keep your nose to the page and continue creating. #createmorecompareless Click To Tweet
Recognize that there will always be someone who is ‘better’ than you.
And that it’s okay! Allow this, not to deter you from your goals, but to propel you closer to them. Take time to not only appreciate the other person’s work, but to learn from it. Just as a reminder, being teachable is the only way you’ll get better at your own craft. NOTE: I am not condoning copying others’ work. We should all try to create in a way that is uniquely our own. Learn from the techniques of others or ask for guidance in something that’s unfamiliar to you, but always try to produce original content.
Don’t let others’ successes mar your own–be they big or small.
While you’re learning from others and watching their success from afar, don’t be so quick to downplay your own. Look how far you’ve come and where you’re at now. Just because someone ‘made it big’ or accomplished ‘the thing’ doesn’t mean that you haven’t made some pretty substantial movement yourself. Acknowledge your growth. Nurture it. Challenge it.Don't let others' successes mar your own--be they big or small. #createmorecompareless Click To Tweet
Keep creating, and show up for yourself.
Like I said, it’s easy to get distracted and even discouraged looking at another person’s work or placement in life. The way I see it, you have two choices here. Either, continue distracting yourself, distancing yourself farther and farther away from your own pursuits. OR, mind ya business–get to work and finish what you’ve worked so hard to start. Show up for yourself, because if you don’t–who else will?
I feel like there needs to be some kind of “Can I get an ‘Amen’? thrown in there somewhere. Anyone? No?
The plain fact of the matter is this: the world needs your “you”-ness because no one else has it.Don't rob us--or yourself, for that matter--of your talents, skills or your own uniqueness. #createmorecompareless Click To Tweet
Don’t rob us–or yourself, for that matter–of your talents, skills or your own uniqueness. Own it and work to your best ability with what you’ve got. Because comparison at its core, is just a distraction. Let’s stop giving it our precious time and attention, shall we?
Need more encouragement?
Before you go–I have created FREE printable affirmations for you to use to start battling this monster called comparison.
Hang it up on your wall, your bathroom mirror…anywhere, as a reminder to #createmorecompareless. Use the #createmorecompareless hashtag on IG or Twitter so I can see all of the awesome things you’re creating!