Part 1 of the Single Woman’s Blogging Challenge
“You’re so great, though.
I don’t know why you’re still single.”
So, maybe I haven’t gotten this exact question before.
I think it’s because over time, people have gotten a little more tact and realized that asking this question could be taken offensively.
Uh, go figure.
But if someone did decide to be adventurous and overly-curious, and they asked me point-blank, “Why are you still single, though?” I’d probably look at them weird.
Like one of those Ice Cube snarls type of weird.
And then I’d ponder. Because I too have asked myself this question probably about one million and two times…in the last month. I’m kidding.
Or am I?
But, seriously I’ve voiced my desires again and again on this blog. And I’ve voiced them again and again to the Lord, and yet here I am.
Still single and still voicing those desires.
But you know what? That’s okay.
It’s okay to desire companionship and it’s okay to ask the Lord for provision in any area you feel that you’re lacking in. He expects it–not only that–he honors it. If I can tell you one thing about my God and His faithfulness and grace, it’s that it never runs empty or dries up. It’s overflowing and freely given to those who simply ask for it.
Now, this doesn’t mean that if you just pray really hard, join 12 Bible studies and are really, really good that week, He will bless you with the all longings of your heart.
But if we seek Him and desire to do His good and perfect will, I’m confident that we will get to see Him work in our lives in more awesome ways than we could have ever imagined.
So…why am I still single?
To be perfectly honest with you, I don’t technically know why. But I do know that God has me in this season for a reason. He’s humbled me and taught me more about myself and my brokenness this year than ever before.
And I’m thankful.
I’m grateful to learn about those hidden scars and open wounds that still mar my soul. It’s painful, sure. Embarrassing–yeah, this is also true. But I’m overjoyed that He is faithful to help heal and mend my broken pieces.
While I couldn’t begin to know the answer to the question above…
Here are some of my theories:
I’m a late-bloomer.
At least that what my mom says. I think she just says this to make me feel better. But seriously, it could be true. I’ve learned a lot about myself in these past 25 years of life, and one thing I know to be incredibly true is that I am late to the party most of the time. Figuratively and literally, unfortunately–sorry, friends!
My social circle isn’t that wide.
Hello? Introvert, remember? This one’s a stretch only because if you know me, you know that I like to keep busy and get involved with a lot of things at once. But maybe that’s just it. Sometimes I think I take on so much that I lose out on making those deep and real, intimate connections with others because I’m so busy jumping into the next thing.
I’m still learning about who I am and what I’m looking for.
Aren’t we all? But seriously–I’m still figuring out what I’m going to do with my life, let alone who I’m going to spend it with! God’s still dealing with me and this stubborn heart of mine. He’s re-shaping and molding it to look more like Jesus’ everyday. It’s hard–I’ll be the first to say it–and I question Him more than I’d like to admit, but somehow my heart just knows He’s got this. Here’s to remembering it when things get hard!
I just haven’t found that certain, special someone yet.
Some days, I’ll admit, I buy into the world’s scare tactic of “oh, you’re going to end up forever alone and be part of the pitiful, bitter unmarried club!” But then the Lord gently reminds me of who He is. He is God of the impossible. Nothing is too hard, too crazy or too far-out-of-reach for Him. If He has plans for me, then I’m golden. What those plans are needn’t concern me. I just need to rest in the fact that He’s got it all under His control.
What do you think?
Are you single? Why?
Feel free to give me one of these for asking: